Thoughts beyond my life & my travel - Bel

What did a middle-aged man and woman talk about in a fast food restaurant? A candid conversation! It was a Cheung Yeung afternoon that many people go up the hill to visit the graves of the ancestors. I bet the couple had more serious "business" to talk about instead of following this tradition. I totally had no intention to overhear such conversation, but I could imagine customers at the corner could hear it well with no problem. I guess when one is really angry, one does not care about talking about all of her family secrets in public. I could see the woman feel frustrated when her husband betrayed her and embraced the youth of another woman. "Many people say I'm pretty than her. How old is she? You want her because she's younger?" The man did not say a word. I kept looking at my tablet, dared not looking up to check the face of the "couple". Does he feel ashamed? Does he simply want to reconcile the relationship? Why was he willing to be...

I finally made a "trip" to the library today. My only purpose was to look for travel guides on Bangkok. Travel blogs and travel apps are widely present on the internet space. They are very useful for researching on a new place, but I still prefer a physical travel book that organizes the information in a systematic way. I can spend a week searching information online, but glancing through the information of a good travel book simply takes a couple of hours only. There are quite a lot of book choices in the library, but the good Chinese books, based on their layout and content, are all written by Taiwanese authors. That is really sad! HK publishers no longer invest in travel guides? They only compile the magazine write-ups into a so-called "travel guide" and try to make a profit out of it. What I like the Taiwanese guide books is that they have a thought on how to come up with useful topics for travelers, not just a couple of pages for hotels plus another 2...

It's a strange feeling when you bump into your old friend and realize that she has changed her hair, changed her boyfriend, had a big jump along the career path and even re-located to somewhere far from where you live. Then I'm thinking - why do I stick with the same hairstyle, the same apartment and the same job. What's going on? Am I lagging behind or do I refuse to move forward? Life is so unpredictable. While some of my friends quit their jobs and devote their social life to families, others just focus on career and aim at moving up the career ladder. I probably lie in the middle, seeking stability for having time to enjoy quality of life, pursue personal development and give back to society. It is unavoidable for us to compare ourselves with people around us. According to the social psychology theories, people always see themselves "better than a average person". That may give us a motivation to work hard and stay competitive. While I tried to stop to c...

I used to find Olivier Martinez one of the most handsome men on earth after I watched Unfaithful . It was until last weekend when I saw the movie again. I was not attracted to him at all. Maybe my mind has gone through so much changes over the years, changing my perception. Talking about perception , I actually find the male lead in this TV episode is quite appealing. But when I reflect on the change of perception, I try to relate it to the psychology concepts I just learnt. People do change because of situational depositions, couples do need to work hard to match with the pace of the perception change of one another. To maintain the relationship simply takes a lot of effort. As the economy evolves so much over the years, there is no doubt that our thinking and perception have been fast evolving, too.